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Information about Choosing Wisely - Before You Divorce

Are you considering divorce? Is your spouse?

This may be the biggest decision of your life. One that will affect you for years to come. Don’t let the emotional intensity of a marriage crisis drive your decision. Before deciding whether to divorce or stay together, you need information—LOTS of information.

Before You Divorce will help you step back from the emotional turmoil you now face to take an objective view of how divorce (if you select that path) will affect your life in several different areas:

Emotional

Physical

Financial

Legal

Children and family

Spiritual

It is essential that you have this information before making your decision.

The Before You Divorce kit includes 5 video sessions, 2 workbooks and a Facilitators Guide, packaged in an attractive library case.

Each video session is produced in an interesting television magazine format. The sessions include interviews with top experts and real-life stories of people who have experienced divorce. The Before You Divorce workbook includes a section for taking notes as you view each video, a daily devotional and a journal section. The total cost for the entire kit is only $60, a small investment to make before making such a life-changing decision.

You'll find these tapes helpful if your current status falls in one of these categories:

You are still married but having major problems. You and your spouse may have already talked about separation or divorce.

You are still living together but have separated emotionally.

You have separated physically but are still married. You or your spouse may be involved in a relationship with another person.

You have divorced but have not remarried. Again, you or your spouse may have already become involved in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with another person.

This program is designed to be used in a variety of situations:

Individual: View the video sessions and complete the workbook exercises on your own.

Couple: View the videos and discuss with your spouse.

Facilitated: A friend, family member, pastor or counselor can guide you through the materials (as a couple or individual). A Facilitators Guide is included.

Before You Divorce is NOT marriage counseling. This material does not address typical marriage problems such as communication, money, sexual difficulties, dysfunction, abuse and intimacy. There are so many factors that contribute to the breakdown of a marriage that it would be impossible to deal with them all in the scope of the Before You Divorce materials.

Before You Divorce will help lead you to one of two choices:

You will proceed with plans for a divorce.

You will decide to remain married and attempt to resolve your problems.

If you choose the second option, then it will be important for you and your spouse to develop and implement a plan to rebuild your marriage. Many resources are available in your community to assist you in this, including guidance from your pastor, a Christian Counselor, or a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Even if you have already tried counseling, you may want to give it another chance after viewing these tapes. And by all means, take advantage of a number of the resources described in other sections of this web site.

Most people who divorce don't understand the many implications of their decision before making it. By spending just a little time with these videos and this workbook, you'll have a good overview of the divorce process, what effects a divorce will have on your life and a better understanding of the alternatives to divorce.

No matter how bad things are between you and your spouse right now, we believe it is essential for you to know this information. Do not proceed with a divorce until you have seen the Before You Divorce materials.

They will have a lasting effect on the quality of your life.

The Choosing Wisely - Before You Divorce material can be ordered by calling 1-800-489-7778.